"Why?"

Recently I saw Nick’s video, a man born without any limbs, leading a much normal life than many of us.
He does his daily chores, can swim, uses technology with ease, answers mails, travels across the globe and, above all is a motivational speaker.
More than curiosity, to find a remedy to my own challenges I decided to read more about Nick on the web to understand how he was embracing life every day unlike many of us.

And the more I read about him the more I was confused as I could not understand how someone with such adversity could lead such a normal life?

For his set of challenges were different and permanent than in case of many others, like me.

It is a struggle to cope up with the reality especially if it’s a personal loss or a relationship being called off, to take charge of one’s emotions and take stock of what is left and move ahead.

While I am writing this, I still feel the pain..

It wasn’t that I wasn’t willing to accept the reality as it was..
It wasn’t that I didn’t wished to move on..

It’s was just that I couldn’t..!!
And I failed to understand WHY?

In spite of turning to the wisdom around me in form of peers, friends and loved ones..
In spite of keeping myself occupied by reading..travelling..indulging in activities which wouldn’t spare me any time to think..

I still was miserable!!

Whenever tragedy strikes,
or when I lose something special,
the question I usually ask is..
"WHY me?"
“WHY does it have to happen to me?”
"WHY did she leave me for a loser?"

And these "WHY?" questions were just sending me in circles.
And soon I found my answer in my ignorance.

I realised that instead of asking or finding answers to “Why” Nick had found answers to “What” he could do with his life.

"Almost anything!"

This realisation that often, there is no answer to "WHY?" or it doesn't matter why was the turning point.

And from this moment I started asking "WHAT?"...
"WHAT do I learn from this?"
"WHAT am I going to do about it?"

And since then life has become much easier.
It is not a struggle any more.

Like someone said that, “The key to happiness I believe is not to bother about whether life is ‘fair’. It’s just to make the most of what we have.”

And is life fair?
Probably not, But it does it matter why?